Three Steps To Affair Proof Your Marriage 1 Corinthians 7:1–5
Every marriage faces pressures, temptations, and seasons of exhaustion, but affairs rarely begin with a single bad decision. More often, they grow out of neglected relationships, unmet emotional needs, and a gradual drifting apart. In this episode of the Light on Life Podcast, discover three practical, biblical steps to affair-proof your marriage. Learn what Scripture teaches about cultivating a healthy sexual relationship, guarding your heart and mind, eliminating the divorce option from your vocabulary, and making time for one another before life's demands steal the intimacy God intended for marriage.
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Keep Your Sex Life Straight and Strong
Defining terms will help us here.
What is a straight sex life?
A straight sex life means understanding what God condones and what God condemns.
God is against
Sex before marriage
Multiple partners like wife swapping.
Incest
Adultery
Pornography and X-rated movies.
No matter what anyone says, the grass is not greener on the other side.
Grass is grass on both sides of the fence.
Sexual frustration is a marriage killer.
Follow the Bible in love and marriage. It is the best guide.
Listen to What the Bible Says about Sex.
1 Cor. 7:1–5 (KJV)1 Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman. 2 Nevertheless, to avoid fornication, let every man have his own wife, and let every woman have her own husband. 3 Let the husband render unto the wife due benevolence: and likewise also the wife unto the husband. 4 The wife hath not power of her own body, but the husband: and likewise also the husband hath not power of his own body, but the wife. 5 Defraud ye not one the other, except it be with consent for a time, that ye may give yourselves to fasting and prayer; and come together again, that Satan tempt you not for your incontinency.
Hebrews 13:4 (ESV)4 Let marriage be held in honor among all, and let the marriage bed be undefiled, for God will judge the sexually immoral and adulterous.
Prov. 5:18–20 (KJV)18 Let thy fountain be blessed: and rejoice with the wife of thy youth. 19 Let her be as the loving hind and pleasant roe; let her breasts satisfy thee at all times; and be thou ravished always with her love. 20 And why wilt thou, my son, be ravished with a strange woman, and embrace the bosom of a stranger?
Song of Solomon 1:12–13 (ESV)12 While the king was on his couch, my nard gave forth its fragrance. 13 My beloved is to me a sachet of myrrh that lies between my breasts.
Nearly every book in the Bible mentions sex.
The scriptures teach that it is ungodly for a husband and a wife not to have sexual intercourse (Gen. 1:27–28).
The scriptures teach you not to use sex as a weapon.
1 Cor. 13:4–8 teaches you how love behaves.
Sex is a way that you show each other complete love and devotion.
Marriage is not a partnership of two self-willed, independent people. Marriage is a spiritual and physical union whereby husbands and wives share their total lives with each other.
Sex is an important part of that sharing.
The scriptures teach that sex is for pleasure not only for conceiving children.
Guard Your Eyes
The sex drive must be controlled even after marriage.
Lust is not a “singles” problem only.
You must control your flesh – married or not.
Watch what you watch!
Don’t Permit the Possibility of Divorce to Enter Your Thinking
Marriage is “Until Death Do You Part”, not “Until We Can’t Make It Anymore And The Lord Will Forgive Us.”
Your attitude rules all. “We will make this work” is your necessary conviction above all else.
Do not discuss divorce.
In the midst of your deepest aggravations, do not confess divorce.
Do not use the threat of divorce or separation as a tool to brow beat your mate into doing what you want them to do.
Don’t Over Commit to the Point of Exhaustion
Young couples are especially prone to this.
Do not try to go to college, work full time, have a baby, raise a toddler, fix up a house, and start a business at the same time.
If you do, the only time you see each other is when you are worn out!
It is especially dangerous to have a husband vastly over committed and the wife staying home with a preschooler. Her profound loneliness can build discontent and depression. Where do you think that road leads?
You must reserve time for one another
Call to Action:
Try these marriage Beatitudes to strengthen your union.Blessed are the husband and wife who continue to be affectionate, considerate and loving after the wedding bells have stopped ringing.Blessed are the husband and wife who are as polite and courteous to one another as they are to their friends.Blessed are they who have a sense of humor, their marriage shall be much brighter.Blessed are the parents who abstain from alcohol (I would add “, tobacco, and drugs”), their children will surely follow their example.Blessed are they who are faithful to each other and mutually helpful. God will surely guide them.Blessed are the husband and wife who thank God for good things which come to them. They shall receive both good things and thankful children.Blessed are the parents who recognize their children as gifts from God, their home shall be filled with love.Blessed are those mates who make their home a place “where seldom is heard a discouraging word”. They shall inspire others to do likewise.Blessed are the parents who attend and support their church. Their children shall develop a strong faith.Blessed is the couple who are good stewards of all God’s gifts, their children will bless them and follow their example.Blessed are all those whose lives are a testimony of faith in God, they shall be the channels through which God’s kingdom will come on earth. Surely goodness and mercy shall follow them all the days of their lives and they shall dwell in the house of the Lord forever. [3. From “The Christian Builder,” May 24, 1985].